to experience whatever is
meaningful to them, and
I am free
to create that which ismeaningfulto me
to experience whatever is
meaningful to them, and
I am free
to create that which ismeaningfulto me
We are all connected and if we take the opportunity to see ourselves in others, we can always learn, grow, and change! I’ve been thinking about this topic a lot lately and have tried to write my thoughts about on several different occasions. Most likely there will be several posts on this topic because it is so important.
My latest thoughts on this subject stem from comments I’ve received from several people about the strength they see in me. I’ve heard, “you are so strong to go through another divorce, be a single mom, have a baby with Down syndrome, stand up for what you believe in…” After a compliment such as these I usually hear something like, “I could never do what you are doing, or I could never be as strong as you are…or I would never be able to face my husband like you did, or I could never be a single mom…”
When I hear comments like these, I am saddened to think that these women don’t know how strong they are too. We are all strong, or rather we all have the capability to be strong in a resolve or passionate for a cause, or boldly stand up for the truth. We are all created in God’s image and so we can do anything we put our mind to. If you think you are somehow stuck in your life and that you cannot move forward, please know from my experience if nothing else, that you are NOT stuck and you CAN move forward. If you are feeling like a victim of life, know that that victim mentality is just that, a mentality. Thoughts can be changed at any moment. A quote I love and have hanging in my home says, “The point of power is always in the present moment.”
Choosing to be a victim and believing that you don’t deserve better in life is a choice. I know there are some people who don’t really get that thought or agree with me, but nonetheless, this is what I believe. We are agents and we can decide in any moment to make changes.
Maybe by making or thinking those kinds of comments you aren’t necessarily being a victim, but rather just a women who has little self-esteem and doesn’t think she can stand up for herself. Or you just don't really belive you are strong enough or have enough courage.
I’ve been in all the above circumstances. I’ve had to acknowledge many times in recent years that I want to be a victim and I don’t want to stand up and own my power or voice as a woman. If you are willing to recognize that you are acting that way, then you can change. Once you have an awareness of your actions, you can always choose to continue behaving that way, or decide to try something new. That’s what I’ve done in my life and that’s what I continue to do.
Trying new things has been something I’ve learned a lot about the past five years. Sometimes trying new things can be as simple or challenging as changing a limiting thought pattern. I’ve come to the realization many, many times in the past years how limiting my belief patterns are. I’ve had to come to awareness that deep down I believe a lot of lies about myself, others and God. When you start to have this awareness it is like a light bulb that finally turns on in your consciousness and you can finally see things that have always been dark before. More on that topic later!
So as I was saying before if you think you are not strong enough to defend the truth, I’m here to tell you that your belief is false. You are strong enough. If you believe that you don’t deserve to be happy and have positive people in your life that also is a false belief you have. You deserve all the happiness in the world and to be surrounded with like minded people in your life. If you don’t believe that you can set boundaries in relationships that have gone awry, that’s a false belief as well. You are strong enough to be heard and for your requests to be honored and valued in the relationships you are in. You matter. Your thoughts, feelings, and desires matter.
The reason I am getting a divorce is because I got to a point in my life that I had set boundary after boundary in my marriage and then I waited to see if those requests would be honored. I waited for over a year much to the chagrin of family and friends who thought that was being overly generous. However, I knew wasn’t ready to call it quits until I had given it my all. I can honestly say I did give it my all in that year after I discovered the truth of what was going on in my marriage and I knew when that relationship was over. It’s scary to make those decisions and to boldly stand up when you know something to be right and true. It does take courage, but we all possess courage. You are courageous. As I talk to other women, fear seems to take a front seat in how they live their lives. Now is the time to face your fears in those areas of your life that you are too afraid to face. You can face the truth. You can face yourself. You can look within. Know that you are safe as you question who you really are and start to take accountability for your life. It’s a rewarding challenge and it’s the only way we can become authentic human beings. We have to face the truth and come to peace with the truth and the lies that we’ve believed and lived our whole lives.
I freely express who I am
I am indeed blessed. There are wonderful opportunities to be myself, to express myself as who I really am. I am the beauty and joy of the Universe expressing and receiving. I surround myself with Divine honesty and justice. I know that Divine right action is taking place and whatever the outcome is, it is perfect for me and everyone concerned. I am one with the very power that created me. I am wonderful. I rejoice in the truth of my being. I accept it as so and let it be. I say, so be it, and know that all is well in my wonderful, wonderful world right here and right now. And so it is. (Heart Thoughts, page 83)
I am always perfectly protected.
Remember, when a fearful thought comes up, it is trying to protect you. Isn't that what fear is all about? When you bcome frightened, your adrenalin pumps up to protect you from danger. Say to the fear: "I appreciate that you want to help me;" Then do an affirmation about that paricular fear. Acknowledge and thank the fear but don't give it importance. (Heart Thoughts, page 89.)
I open new
doors to life
You are standing in the corridor of Life, and behind you so many doors have closed. Things you no longer do or say, or think. Experiences you no longer have. Ahead of you is a continuous corridor of doors-each one opening to a new experience. So you move away from the past. As you move forward, see yourself opening various doors on wonderful experiences which you would like to have. Trust that your inner guide is leading you and guiding you in ways that are best for you, and that your spiritual growth is continuously expanding. No matter which door opens or which door closes, you are always safe. You are eternal. You will go on forever from experience to experience. See yourself opening doors to joy, peace, healing, prosperity, and love. Doors to understanding, compassion, and forgiveness. Doors to freedom. Doors to self worth and self esteem. Doors to self love. It is all here before you. Which door will you open first? Remember, you are safe, it is only change. (Heart Thoughts, page 163)
I am in the process of positive change
I am unfolding in fulfilling ways. Only good can come to me. I now express health, happiness, prosperity, and peace of mind.
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“The moment you say affirmations, you are stepping out of the victim role. You are no longer helpless. You are acknowledging your own power.” Louise Hay
I’ve had some criticism and skepticism from others regarding my path lately and I am writing now for myself as a reminder that I know I am in the right place for me right now in my life. I already know this on many levels, but lately I’ve been dealing with some deep core parts of myself that still need to hear these affirmations. A dear friend of mine introduced me to Daily Kabbalah Tune Ups and I love getting these insights in my inbox everyday. You can read more about Kabbalah on their website. I believe there is a lot of truth in what they are teaching and the daily emails help me to keep perspective as I continually work on changing my limiting beliefs. The email I received this morning was perfect.
“Certainty isn’t positive thought or a personal mantra. It’s not, I know he’s the one or I’m sure everything is going to be fine in the end. Positive thinking is important, but it’s not certainty. Certainty is knowing that this system works, and because it works, I’m in the right place right now, regardless of how it looks. And because I’m in the right place at the right time, every time, I need to be good with where I’m at. No matter what. Today, inject greater certainty that you’re on the right path, that you’re connected to the Light, and that you’re in the right place, at the right time, every time.”
We have internal dialogues going on constantly throughout the day. When was the last time you really listened to how you talk to yourself? Are you positive, uplifting, motivating, and affirming? Or are you negative, degrading, accusatory, and self deprecating? More than likely you speak negatively – it’s ingrained in us from childhood – it was ingrained in our parents from their childhood – its a pattern that exists in our society. Negative patterns of thinking, and believing about yourself and others – habits that are so a part of us that most often than not we don’t even know how negative we are with ourselves!
I for one didn’t ever give much thought to this topic until a few years ago when I really started to work on myself and my inner world. When I get really honest with myself though I know that many of my day to day problems stem from negative beliefs I have of myself. Since gaining this awareness, I vacillate back and forth between positive thinking and the negative self talk from the past. Sometimes I do a really good job and go weeks and even months practicing positive affirmations and thinking. Yet, other times, I fall into the trap of my old beliefs and I struggle desperately day to day.